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In a message dated 1/30/03 12:37:50 PM Pacific Standard Time,
queenofcomps@lvcm.com writes:

I wonder if people who post nasty things on the Internet say nasty things to
other people when face to face with them. Do people think they don't have
a reputation if people don't know their face? I have an opinion about each
person who posts by what they say and how they say it. There are some
people I don't care to meet in person.

It's like the people who smoke in the casino and drop their ashes on the
carpeting. Anonymity has its temptations. My temptation is always to ask
(as I do), is that what you do at home? Similarly flaming is just too easy
when the writer is anonymous - I agree with you wholeheartedly; it is
unnecessary, and it is ugly.

Karen

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queenofcomps@lvcm.com writes:

I wonder if people who post nasty things on the Internet say nasty things

to

other people when face to face with them. Do people think they don't have
a reputation if people don't know their face? I have an opinion about

each

person who posts by what they say and how they say it. There are some
people I don't care to meet in person.

I don't think there is anything wrong with behaving differently online
than in person, but there are limits. Getting nasry is usually over the
line, although it is defensible when it is simply fighting fire with fire.
When online, I will often argue a point much more strongly than I will
in person. Even then I rarely give in to personal attacks, though it is
an undeniable truth that I have been known to cross that line with one
particular individual.

The goals of online discussion (at least for me) are different. When
online, the dominant drive is the exchange, discussion and debate of video
poker and all the other flotsam and jetsam that surfaces. Social issues
take a secondary place. When online, I will speak my mind first and worry
about who is offended only as a secondary concern.

In real life, it is different. The expression "Opinions are like assholes,
Everyone has one, but nobody wants to hear about it" was created for real
life In the online realm, opinions a big part of the appeal.

Of course, some internet alcoves really are just a social club with wires,
but those get pretty dull, pretty fast.

QZ