Well put. I agree that the crime is just that "a crime". But as the examples point out some actions of the "victim" make the crime more plausible, not justifiable, but if i left my walet at a table and walked away i should not be surprized if it was gone when i came back. Not to say these women should dress like 19th century puritans, but i wonder what they are trying to accomplish by dressing like a street walker. If they want attention then they have to take the good with the bad. These would probably be the same women that complain that guys are jerks for not looking at them if they showed up in sweats and a baseball cap. Now can i have a hand down from my soap box i have to go and feed my high horse. 
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On Jul 9, 2009, at 8:30 AM, "larsonsm" <larsonsm@yahoo.com> wrote:
The comment about saying "yes" may have been worded poorly, but I agree with the part about "blame". Consider these other scenarios - you walk down the street by yourself in a bad part of the city flashing a lot of expensive jewelry. If somebody robs you, people would certainly say "you were asking for it". Does it mean that it was OK for the person to rob you? Of course not - it is morally and legally wrong. But do you deserve some of the blame? I think so. Would you park somewhere, leave your windows down and your purse on the front seat? If you did and it was gone when you came back, would you deserve some of the blame? Again, it doesn't excuse the criminal action at all - whether it's rape (which granted is much more personal and traumatic than many other crimes) or any other violation, the person committing the act is undeniably wrong. But there are things that we all do to try to decrease the chances of something like that happening to us.
To deliberately dress and act in a way that increases the temptation for someone to take advantage of you (like having your shorts unsnapped, partly unzipped) is taking a risk and would result in a bit of "blame" in my opinion.
--- In vpFREE@yahoogroups.com, "Terri" <tlcraig1@...> wrote:
Hi Jean,
I agree with the bikinis. I was in Las Vegas two months ago seeing girls walk around the casinos and exiting taxis even by themselves, which I also find unacceptable.
How ever the comment you made.
"There is more than one way to say "Yes" than with words out of your mouth.", is also unacceptable. Just because someone chooses to wear inappropriate attire as we might see it, they are not saying yes. No means no, no matter how someone dresses and to me they are not asking to be raped by some aZZZ hole that can not keep it in his pants. Just my views on this comment you made that seems you did not realize what you where saying and how you would a fend most of us here at this VP site.
Sincerly,
Terri
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